I’m always asked where does your confidence come from?! As if it’s a rare item that you have to know someone, to be referred to the dealer, because it’s a product exclusive to the elite. I love myself and my body, I’m not the norm. I celebrate my curves, exude confidence, and could care less about what society says I should be, or look like. I totally understand why I’m in the minority, with a one size equals beauty mentality corrupting the minds of the masses, it’s hard to stand strong in your unique beauty when you are constantly bombarded with quick fixes to the new and improved you. Most of the time the only thing that ends up new and improved is the company’s bank account that sold you the false dreams of having a perfect life through a creamy diet shake that gives you gas.
I say it’s time to stop making women feeling inadequate because of their physical appearance; we have so much more to offer. Every day I wake up and I go though the day thinking about how can I get to the next level in my career, how can I be a better person, how can I get closer to achieving my goals in life, how can I have a stronger relationship with God, how can I change the world…not how am I going to get rid of the cellulite on my thighs, doesn’t that sound insignificant in the big picture? Don’t get me wrong, I’m a diva, my appearance is important to me, however I don’t compare myself to unrealistic images in magazines and then down myself for not living up to them, that’s just a form of self-sabotage, the people in the magazines don’t even look that perfect in real life.
My mother told me at a young age; I was smart and beautiful and if anyone had anything negative to say to ignore them. That simple, but powerful, statement has followed me though adulthood. I don’t allow negativity to consume me; it just wastes time and energy. Whatever size you are, you can never be totally happy until you learn to love yourself. It doesn’t matter if you are a size 2 or 22, there is something beautiful and special about you. Even if you aren’t at the place you want to be, you should still take pride in yourself as you are in this moment as you work toward your desired goal. When you are at peace with yourself, it’s like a burden lifted off of your shoulders. It’s mentally freeing yourself from the harmful and negative thoughts that are holding you back from self acceptance.
As for me, I’ll never be a size 2 nor do I have the desire to be, I love myself just the way I am. I walk with my head held high, with pride and confidence in myself as a person. I am far from perfect, but I don’t obsess over my imperfections. My imperfections make me who I am, which is perfect to me.
1 Comment
July 1, 2008 at 3:06 pm
Chenese , this was possibly the best blog ive ever read!!! Seriously it was just speaking to my heart and soul so I had to comment. I compleletely agree with every thing you said and I share the same views that you have on this blog. Plus size women often dont realize how fabolous and worthy they are, so many times were bombarded with negatives images and messages and that can really take a toll on a womans self esteem but im so thankful that your active within the entertainment industry and your helping to break down barriers and be a role model for young women who many not see a familiar face or shape on tv.magazine etc.
Keep up the great and I will for sure do my part to empower the curvy girl movement
Much love
~Serena~